Saturday, January 14, 2012

Nightmare about death.

I had the most horrible, vivid, graphic nightmare early this morning that is still on my mind. Every time I think about it I get upset again and even start crying... I'll write more about it later, but for now just now that it ended with my husband and child (and I think, myself) being murdered. I looked up some information today online to help process this a bit and found a website with some interesting insights (from

"Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:

‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F

Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.

This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage.

Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel.

Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered.

So ask yourself what your fears are about.

But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted - it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if the marriage has died.

A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and needing protection, it could show you the death of that part of your feelings.

So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you."
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  1. So you're saying you need a trip to Burning Man? lol Seriously....sorry that you had that bad dream. I have had a dream of worrying about my grandchilren, drowning in my pool. It's a helpless feeling! Hope you feel better soon and can forget that bad dream!

  2. Kathy, it truly IS a helpless feeling! And I just can't stand that my dreams are so intense, so realistic, so detailed. Sometimes I know I'm dreaming and can try to get myself to snap out of it, but this time it was a little different and really affected me. I'm sure there are multiple layers of meaning to it, but honestly I haven't even wanted to think about it since I woke up! /:)